Healing from the pain of any type of abuse is
usually a very individual journey and the process is unique to each
person.
I hope things work out for you Bridget and that you
do the right thing to protect yourself.
We can't even have a real conversation anymore
without getting into an argument. Welcome to my Interactive! This helps to be able
to work towards any personal healing that may be needed and on changing those
behaviors.
And you may need to be prepared to be flexible on
some issues. Or, it may include the need to not overly focus on aspects of what has
happened in one's childhood that has caused emotional, mental and even physical
scarring that a parent may be responsible for. What you can do is nudge him along
and let him know that it's a very serious issue to you and it sounds like you have.
It sounds like he needs his space and if you try to force something on him that he
can't or won't do right now will likely only backfire for you.
If you get to thinking healthier and clearer you
will have positive effects on your relationship and will be taking responsibility
for your own life.
God has a way of providing help for us if we
actively seek and reach out to others for help on the journey.
Without some clear boundaries and continued work on
the issue of change, there is a high likelihood that a recurrent abusive episode can
occur. But, unfortunately we all have to live the consequences of our choices
whether pleasant or painful at times. But, you do need to make sure that you both
continue to take the steps necessary to make your marriage a 'safe place' for you to
remain.
I am just so sad and I am finding myself rather
more depressed as time goes on.
I found their prices to be very good.
And, while it's true that God desires for us to
honor our parents he does not state or demand that we need to endure further abuse
at their hands in doing so.
There are many men and women in your situation who
are trying to navigate the waters of online infidelity. Often I feel like I have no
one to talk or I am embarrassed to talk.
He is a humble person, but I feel a wall now
between us so thick I have no clue how to tear it down. Thank your for listening to
me.
I believe God can heal my marriage and that I am
not in any harm.
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Do you have any suggestions as to how to find
someone in our area or what to look for? He has this fantasy with other
women.
Leaning on God in this situation can bring much
comfort and strength, and God can aid and heal your marriage relationship. Some
deeper digging is needed Anonymous, and I hope that you are able to commit to the
process.
I feel though that I'm pulling away from my
husband, as if I can have no true respect for him. I wish you two the best for the
future and you're in my prayers.