\version "2.16.2"



\score {
<< 
  \new Staff { 
  
  \relative c' {\key d \major 
           \time 3/4
%
% this bar works well because the "enharmonic advisory" note is
% close to the original note
%
          ces'4  
     \afterGrace fes{
      \once \override Stem #'transparent = ##t
      \once \override Flag #'transparent = ##t
       \parenthesize e!8 
    } a,!4
   \bar "||"
   s2.
%
% this time it is unsatisfactory as I cannot get the "advisory" note
% close to the original, as it should be
%
          ces4  
     \afterGrace fes
     {
      % below has no effect....... 
     \once \override NoteColumn #'force-hshift = #-3
      \once \override Stem #'transparent = ##t
      \once \override Flag #'transparent = ##t
      \parenthesize e!8 
    } a,!4
       \bar "||"

} \addlyrics {flows. Brick  walls  flows. Brick  walls }

  }
    \new Staff { 
  
  \relative c' {\key d \major 
           s2. s2. \repeat unfold 24 {cis32}
} 

  }
>>
  \layout {
    \context {
      \Voice
      \override ParenthesesItem #'font-size = #-1
      \override ParenthesesItem #'stencil = #(lambda (grob)
       (let* ((acc (ly:grob-object (ly:grob-parent grob Y) 'accidental-grob))
              (dot (ly:grob-object (ly:grob-parent grob Y) 'dot)))
         (if (not (null? acc)) (ly:pointer-group-interface::add-grob grob 'elements acc))
         (if (not (null? dot)) (ly:pointer-group-interface::add-grob grob 'elements dot))
         (parentheses-item::print grob)))
}}}