Re: [Pan-users] Re: Purging headers

[CSV4ME2]

On Saturday 06 December 2008, Duncan wrote:
> Joe Zeff <address@hidden> posted
> address@hidden, excerpted below, on  Fri, 05 Dec 2008 13:24:58
>
> -0800:
> >>> [Joe Zeff != Jeff]
> >
> > On 12/05/2008 CSV4ME2 wrote:
> >> I did answer your question,
> >
> > And I'm not saying that you didn't.  However, I fail to understand how
> > you could be looking at my name and misspell it that way.  At the age of
> > 59, I can, quite literally, say that I've found that type of thing
> > offensive for over half a century, having gotten tired of it at about
> > six or seven.  I've also learned that the only way to prevent it
> > happening again is to make it *very* *clear* the first time that it is
> > unacceptable.
>
> I don't know... I think I'd /choose/ to find it amusing.  This isn't to
> denigrate your bone, which is a legitimate one if you wish to make it so,
> but at age 42 (not quite up with you, but not a young'un any more,
> either), I've discovered that it's much easier to adjust my own attitude
> and actions than that of another, and often, if I don't seem to care so
> much, it's not a big deal and pretty soon people forget about it
> (sometimes by coming up with a new name =:^s) .
>
> Actually, my first name is John, but there were always so many and all
> you here is the ON bit, so it gets mixed up with Donna and the like too.
> So I started going with the more unique Duncan, first offline (when I
> worked with a Donna, see above), then on, when I name-clashed somewhere
> with another John Duncan -- but remarkably I've never name-clashed on or
> offline with an active single name "Duncan".
>
> So people call me John I just ignore it, because generally they're
> talking to/about someone else.  If asked, I explain it this way, the
> double entendre helping to get the point across: "There's always too many
> Johns around... unless you need one!  So I just go by Duncan and avoid
> the confusion."
>
> Then that gets turned into Dunkey, which quickly becomes Donkey!  Or they
> call me "Gordo" (Spanish for fat man) due to my size, or Barney (the
> purple one) again due to both that and my easy going nature, or Pelone,
> Spanish again, due to my often shaved head (and yes, I'm aware of the
> urban dictionary meaning too).  Whatever.  I choose not let it bother me,
> and because it doesn't, it's no big deal.  Even John doesn't bother me,
> tho I'll often ignore it, either because I honestly think they're
> referring to someone else or if I have something else I'm doing, because
> I can pretend I think they're referring to someone else, since I don't
> identify with the name any longer (with the exception of when my folk say
> it, of course).  I'm sure if I let any of those or some other name bother
> me, I'd immediately be branded and stuck with it for life, but honestly,
> there's way more important things to worry about, so I just don't let it
> bother me and it just doesn't bother me.
>
> Of course as I said you have a legit complaint if you want to make a big
> deal of it, but <shrug>, /why/?  Surely you know that by doing so you're
> immediately branding yourself as that in some peoples minds?  Or is that
> the intention?  Maybe you actually like it?  In any case, aren't there
> much more important things to worry about?

Well said, Duncan. 
My sentiments exactly.
Plonked Zeff.

C